When you've lost a loved one, we know that grief doesn't end after the funeral, cremation, or burial. Losing someone you care about can leave you feeling as though you have a hole in your life, and different people have different ways and take different amounts of time to work through the worst of their grief.
If you're working through grief yourself or are helping others through the process, here are a few things to keep in mind that may help during this difficult time:
- You may feel afraid of change or want to make dramatic changes in your life. Either response is normal, but you may want to take a moderate approach. You don't need to sell a home tomorrow or hang on to it forever, but wait until you've worked through the worst of your grief before deciding on major issues.
- You're going to be overly sensitive for a while. If someone says something that upsets you, remember that they're trying to help, not hurt. That person may be at a loss for appropriate words as well.
- If you're helping others through grief, remember that they may not respond as you expect. Especially when you're dealing with small children who don't understand the concept, being there for them, providing as much continuity as possible, and helping where you can is sometimes the best thing you can do.
- There may be particular times of the year that are especially hard, whether it's holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, or other special days. Don't feel that you need to go through as much effort as you have in the past, but don't be afraid to remember the good times and continue celebrating these holidays either. Your loved one would want you to enjoy life.
- Remember that grieving is a process you need to work through. You'll be fine one day and have a more difficult time the next. It's okay to seek help for your grief. Sometimes we all need help to get through the difficult parts of life, and grieving is one of the most difficult things you'll have to face.
At Seawright Funeral Home and Crematory, we understand the grief process because we've been helping our community through their losses for over 90 years. If you need help with your grief, please contact us. We've developed a strong support network over the decades to help people through their loss.